Catholic Churchs of Barber County

Funerals

To schedule a funeral, call Father Firmin Kyaw at 620-886-0691

 

INFORMATION REGARDING FUNERALS

The death of a loved one shakes the earth and takes everyone by surprise, no matter how prepared we think we are. It is very helpful to have someone there to help and guide during the preparation of the funeral. The most important part of planning a Catholic funeral is to be in touch with the Pastoral staff.  They will be there to comfort and guide you in prayer and deed as you prepare to set the funeral time.   They can answer your questions about a time for viewing or a time for prayers; they will give assistance with planning a wake service and especially in preparing the liturgy of the mass.

Speak with the Priest about your wishes in preparing a Catholic funeral. He will advise you about possible times to have the funeral. The funeral is often set for about three days after the death happened. During this time, there are things that need to be decided and there is paperwork to be done.

A Catholic funeral often includes the celebration of a vigil and the celebration of Mass.  With assistance from the pastoral staff, family members will decide things like the readings and hymns for the service; who will perform ministries: lectors, servers, Eucharistic ministers; who will create and deliver the eulogy if this is desired at the vigil; who will serve as pall bearers to carry the casket.
Those who are working with the Priest to prepare the liturgy might want to prepare a page stating the order of the mass, the songs and where to find them, and the names of the celebrants and pall bearers. Ushers can be chosen to show people to their pews.
Some funeral homes include folders that will have information about the deceased: possibly a picture of the person, birth and death dates, and the names of those family members who are the bereaved - family and extended family. It could also contain a short poem, or anything special that the family would like to include.

Usually at the funeral home, you will receive advice about caskets and burials and a time for friends and family to visit with the deceased, whether it is for private prayer or for a personal paying of respect. In places where a funeral home is present, the body of your loved one will be transported and kept there until it is time for the funeral or until it is time for the viewing and/or the vigil. Sometimes this happens in the church.  In our parishes this is recommended.  Members of the parish provide refreshment for family and friends following  the vigil service.

After the funeral Mass, at the grave site, after the coffin is in place and the people are assembled, the priest will deliver a final blessing.
The funeral is usually followed by a Reception or Lunch in a prearranged place. Family, friends and acquaintances who may not have been together in a while have a chance to talk and visit and grieve together before leaving.

It is good to have someone at home who will answer the telephone and answer questions about the funeral and things of that nature, someone who can help keep things organized. It can be difficult for the bereaved to remember everything at this stressful time.

Everyone grieves in their own way and at their own speed. Be kind and compassionate.

CREMATION:

Today the Order of Christian Funerals developed by the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops offers three options for funerals with cremated remains. These are:

  1. (1(and preferred)) cremation follows the funeral service, with a reverent disposition of the cremated remains through burial in a cemetery,
  2. (2) the bereaved gather for the committal of the cremated remains at the cemetery first, followed by a funeral liturgy at the church,
  3. (3) direct or immediate cremation, followed by a funeral liturgy at the church and burial of the remains at an appropriate time. The U.S. Bishops do not encourage practice of scattering cremated remains on the sea or on the ground, or keeping them in the home of a relative or friend, although burial at sea in an urn is acceptable.

How should a Catholic plan for cremation?

First , discuss your questions with a knowledgeable pastor or parish staff person, or contact The Catholic Cemeteries for more information.

Second, if your decision is to be cremated, make your wishes known in your will or in documents designed to help plan your funeral and burial. Provide copies of these documents to family members, your pastor, funeral home, or Catholic cemetery.

Lastly, as you plan, keep in mind the therapeutic value to your family of celebrating the full funeral liturgy with the body present.

Today, while burial remains the more typical practice, it’s no longer uncommon for deceased Catholics to be cremated. The Church continues to teach that the bodies of those who have died be treated with great respect and dignity, both as God’s creation and as former temples of the Holy Spirit, and as an expression of our hope in the risen life to come, which Catholics believe will once again unite the human person as body and spirit.
The new <Code of Canon Law> (1983) stipulates, "The Church earnestly recommends that the pious custom of burying the dead be observed; it does not, however, forbid cremation unless it has been chosen for reasons which are contrary to Christian teaching" (No. 1176, 3). Therefore, a person may choose to be cremated if he has the right intention. However, the cremated remains must be treated with respect and should be interred in a grave or columbarium.

Regarding its morality, the Catechism of the Catholic Church devotes a single sentence to cremation: “The Church permits cremation, provided that it does not demonstrate a denial of faith in the resurrection of the body” (no. 2301).

St. John--Kiowa:

Vigil and Funeral Planning:
Bev Miller  620-825-4382

Funeral Dinner: 
Cindy Summers  620-825-4813

Holy Rosary--Medicine Lodge:

Vigil:  
Connie Bogner        620-886-5120
Brenda Hrencher    620-886-5886

Funeral Dinner:
Laura Nittler           620-886-3178
Mary Jean Miller
Lisa Withrow

St. Boniface--Sharon:

Vigil: 
Kathy Dohm        620-294-5231
Elaine Trantham
Ruth Blick
Darlene Tracy

Funeral Dinner:
Rayann Rucker   620-294-5595
Anne Schreiner
Elaine Trantham
Carol Scripsick